My Father's Wisdom
Happy in your heart
Everyone wishes to be happy every day.
But, you know, we are all normal people and many unhappy things can happen to us in our life. So sometimes we get frustrated and we don’t know why. Sometimes we get angry.
My father didn’t have an easy life; the road for him was not smooth.
In China, during the ten years of the Cultural Revolution, there was much trouble. My father lost his job as a teacher and he was compelled to work as a labourer in a building company. It was very hard work.
I remember, he was just thirty years old but his hair was stark white. Each night, after he finished work, he had to go to re-education meetings to learn about Mao Zhedong’s thinking. His life was so hard, but he never let us, his family, know that he was feeling unhappy. Every evening, as the family was having dinner together, he would tell us about the happy things that happened at work.
He said that you could always find some happy things in your day. Everything that happened to you always has a good side and a not so good side. It all depended on how you looked at it: where you stood.
Happy things are often hidden. They hide in your life, just waiting for you to find them.
How do you find them?
Use your heart. Use your heart to see, to feel. There are always happy things around you, all your life.
You lose money today! Is this an unhappy thing? You can feel happy if you change the way you think. You can think that maybe the person who picked up your money needed it more than you. So, your money has let that person have a new life. You can think that now you know what it is like to lose money. From now on you will be careful, so the same thing will not happen again.
You must be happy!
My father always said that happy things surround you. “Be happy in your heart.” No one person can make you happy. It is only yourself that can truly make you happy.
My Father's Stories
One is when you are born; Two is luck; Three is Feng Shui; Four is the accumulation of merit by doing good deeds; Five is study; Six is your name; Seven is your looks; Eight is godliness (your respect for your god); Nine is who you meet; Ten is your health; Eleven is which course you choose; Twelve is which spouse you choose.
The first five are the most important: Birth, Luck, Feng Shui , Merit, Study